Enough is Enough

I wrote this back in September and have debated with myself about showing it to others. I sent it to a few places and it was published, but I didn’t share it on my blog because it was so heavily edited that I felt like the editor missed the point of what I was trying…

Defining Chaos

August Benjamin joined our family on the day after Christmas. The holidays were a blur. The last month has been a blur. What did I even do five minutes ago? The Honaker house is a disaster these days. There is always a pile of laundry on the couch. The dishwasher always needs to be unloaded….

Telling Jack

We told Jack that his little sister has Down syndrome. “Hey Jack, do you know what Down syndrome is?” my husband asked my son on Sunday morning during breakfast. “Uh huh,” said 3-year-old Jack. This is his standard answer for every question that starts with “Did you know…” “Down syndrome is a genetic defect that…

Fishing out of the same boat

Ellie had a cardiology follow up appointment last week and the news wasn’t great. Through her echo-cardiogram, the doctor found she has developed a new condition that creates a force of blood flow in left side of her heart that he likened to putting your thumb over a garden hose. It is not something that…

Celebrity Status

At Kroger, when we go out to eat in a restaurant, in the waiting room at doctor appointments, while playing at the park, walking through parking lots, even at the Arby’s in Laurel, Mississippi, nearly everywhere we go, Ellie draws attention. “I have a special friend like her.” “She is just so cute. They are…

Sitting Still

There was a big thud at the bottom of the playground slide. “You better watch out! You could have been killed,” the boy yells at Jack, who had been playing at the bottom of the slide. “I couldn’t be killed. I was picking up rocks,” Jack says to the older one, standing so they are…

Comparison is the thief of joy

Ellie just finished her annual evaluations and both of the kids just had their regular wellness checkups. I’ve been answering questions and questionnaires, second guessing and comparing everything for about a month. I compare the kids to each other. I compare the kids to other kids their age. I compare myself to others. It’s hard…

Dragon Legends

We are having another baby. A boy who is due to arrive at Christmas. Much excitement surrounds this baby. Jack has already decided where he will sleep, what he will eat and which Lighting McQueen toys he can drive. He lays his head on my stomach every day and listens to hear what his brother…

Typical

Two-year-old Jack and 1-year-old Ellie have different abilities, but mom Heather Honaker says she still thinks about their futures in similar ways. I have a 2-year-old “typical” son named Jack. He likes to play outside. He likes to be silly and make others laugh. He sings his favorite songs over and over. He is curious…

Summer Dreaming

Here’s to hoping this summer is one to remember. My daughter Ellie turned one about a month ago. My son Jack’s third birthday is in about a month. How did we get here? When other people say this, it makes me want to roll my eyes, but when I think about my own kids, I…